To honour Alan’s life and our connection we created, and still perform, personal remembrance rituals. Some of them are connected to a timeline, like three months and a year after his death. Lighting a candle is something we do every day and, on some days, we cook his favourite meal or order his favourite desert. We also engaged in various ways of creative expression. The lid of Alan’s coffin was decorated beautifully by Samira, and we all added our personal text and drawings to the casket. Inspired by her love for knitting and repurposing, Ilonka proposed to create a blanket out of his favourite jerseys and to connect them with her own soulfully knitted pieces. I started following pottery classes because I wanted to be able to create the urn for Alan’s ashes.
Remembrance rituals and creative activities may help to channel and express feelings of pain and love in various ways and help to find a way to honour, connect and relate to what is lost and to your new reality. The rituals and creative expression give you an opportunity to tell your unique story – even without using words - and to reflect that story back to you. If you wish to create a ritual or object of remembrance for your loved one we can help you find your unique way of honouring them and support you with ideas and/or execution.
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